On New Years Eve, I went to a fancy house in the Carolina mountains with a group of friends. During this time, we enjoyed several conversations on dating, relationships, and mental health. One topic that stood out was self-dating.
Self-Dating: Releasing self-pity and embarrassment and embracing singleness by taking yourself to do the things you love and enjoy solo.
I get it, this sounds desperate and boring. But honestly, that’s just because society has literally conditioned us into believing that if you’re alone that means you’re miserable and no one wants to be with you when this just isn’t true. I know so many people (I’m people) that enjoy the solace of just doing things solo instead of waiting on others to catch on. Not only does it allow you the space to learn the things that refuel you as well as bring you joy, it also positions you to meet new people and practice social skills. Social media has really stunted a lot of people’s personality. That on top of Covid limiting how much we can actually go outside. I don’t know about you but in my free time, I’m getting cute and running to the nearest restaurant or movie theater to enjoy some much needed time outside of the walls of my apartment. And if you’re wondering what you should do when you get there, just live in the moment. Talk to the bartender or waitress, look around and people watch, smile and make eye contact with someone cute across the room. Don’t overthink it, just do it.
If you’re in Atlanta, I’m doing the heavy lifting for you. Here are 20 places you can self-date in Atlanta.