Beyoncé never said to leave your man, she said to torture him so badly that he doesn’t cheat on you again.
The day Beyoncé dropped her album was the day the media went into a frenzy on how Beyoncé is telling all women to leave their man. There were memes created, breakups, and Twitter attacks on innocent women named Becky everywhere. This was all because Beyoncé wrote an album expressing her personal emotions over a possibly hypothetical situation. When I initially viewed the Lemonade video, I too felt the anger and frustration because Beyoncé mentioned she was going to “fu** up all his sh**” and I began to agree with the media. I was ready to unforgive past boyfriends and go back and give them a lemonade garnish with a baseball bat. After calming down and revisiting the album over the last few weeks, I put my bat down and actually heard the album. What I realized is that the first half of the album gets you so hype that you can’t hear the words of the second half because all you’re thinking about is how to “fu** up all his sh**”. But when you hear it in a calm state, you can really hear the message. Beyoncé never said to leave your man, she said to torture him so badly that he doesn’t cheat on you again.
She kicked off the album with “Pray You Catch Me” which spoke about intuition and how she knew her man was cheating on her.
She then went on to “Hold Up” where she figured out that he was indeed cheating but she couldn’t figure out why because no one could love him like she loved him. This was a state of denial because in the video she was happily destroying cars because she was angry but in disbelief that this man actually cheated on her.
His infidelity finally hit her in “Don’t Hurt Yourself” because she was able to voice how she truly felt clearly with pure rage. It is like that moment when you wake up after you’ve broken up with someone and realize that it wasn’t a dream and this is really happening. You then begin to see past the sadness and go into a wrath because you realize that he cheated on you, YOU OF ALL PEOPLE. Beyonce had to let him know that she wasn’t an average bit** and she could bounce to the next di**. (Let’s take a moment of silence for that part because she said that!) Even at the end of this song through all the anger, she gave him a final warning but she still hadn’t left.
Anger shifted to vengeance in “Sorry” when she began to lie to him like he lied to her and ignore his calls. She then told him to call Becky with the good hair because she wasn’t for the bull at this moment.
Anger began to subside and she then went to grief where she began to miss him and needed support. She reached out to her daddy for support but he told her in the past to steer clear of men that will hurt her as her husband had done. “Daddy Lessons” expresses a broken hearted woman confessing her fears coming true to the people she loves and cares about. We tend to look for support but we end up with lessons because when someone hurts you, the people closest to us become defensive and want to tell us where we made our mistakes.
After coping with the lessons, she then went into a “Love Drought” where she opened back up to her man wanting to love him again and start over but being unable to understand why he cheated. She was still hurting but trying to move past it and forgive him.
She then realized her relationship was like a “Sandcastle” that had been washed away by the lies and infidelity but she was willing to take him back as long as she could see his scars. Now this was huge lesson for men everywhere. Women want to forgive you but we want to know it isn’t in vain and that you’ve learned your lesson. We can only do this by seeing your scars match the scars you’ve given us. We have to know that hurting us hurt you so bad that you will never repeat the same behavior. Once we see that, we can give you another chance.
Once she was able to fully forgive, she then loved him “All Night” and was able to rekindle the old flame of her relationship by starting over with her man. The End.
She never left, she just revealed the true emotions of a heartbroken woman. This week is my Beyonce week and I will break down my four favorite songs and the lessons I pulled from them. Be sure to visit SingleWomanChronicles.com everyday this week to get a taste of Beyoncé’s lemonade.